Let me start off by saying that the time has come that I stop keeping my mouth shut, and stop allowing you to be the over-bearing, bully, Rosanne like freak that you are. When I came along, I understood that the merging of two families was going to be very difficult, but apparently you didn’t understand, and still don’t, the meaning of DIVORCE papers.
When I met my husband, the boys were little guys, and I knew where my boundaries were with stepping into business that wasn’t mine. I too, as you know, have two boys, and their father has remarried. But you know what, we communicate when it comes to the boys only. He stays out of my business and I stay out of his. We had our own household rules and our together rules that we stuck to. And now that our boys are grown at 19 and 17, we are all still able to be in the same room as one another, able to have a conversation, able to email jokes to one another, etc. This makes it so much easier on the boys in all aspects and they have said that they respect us for that. Cause believe me, our split was not a nice one either. But, we acted like ADULTS for the sake of the boys.
But you.... like all the times you held visitations over Jim’s head. Every little move he made, if you didn’t approve, you called up screaming like a lunatic, and told him you were not letting the kids come over for their visitations. Can we say control freak? WTF good did that do for the boys? The only person that benefitted out of that situation was you, fueling your ego with thoughts of continued power over Jim. Yeah, I would get mad with Jim for not standing up to you, allowing you to bully him, but I kept my thoughts to myself since it was not my business at that point in time. He loves those boys to death, and allyou did was hurt everyone involved by doing that bull shit!
Then lets go into how jealous you were/are of me, and my and Jim’s relationship. Why? Because YOU cannot have a normal relationship with anyone? You are destructive! I know there are two sides to every story, but it seems to me that you had it made when you were married to Jim. Stay at home mom who apparently did absolutely nothing all day, never cooked, never cleaned, never had to do anything you didn’t want to do, and time to do everything you wanted to do. Yet, you got bored and started fucking around with the neighbor. Then you continued to lead Jim on that nothing was going on and you weren’t leaving him, and then poof! Gone. So, it seems to me that you were done with Jim in ALL aspects. You left, you took the kids, you filed for divorce, the end right? So why, when I called you about the trash your slum-lord boyfriend rents to down the street, would you bring up the conversation of how much Jim has changed for the better since he has been with me, and how you wish that I was wife number one so you and he could still be together? Who would say that? Can you say Psycho!! Maybe it wasn’t him. Maybe it was, and still is, you! I told you then and there that if I was wife #1, there would never have been a #2. Idiot!
So, as the time passes, Jim and I are getting along great and getting serious and decide to move in together, you decided that you were going to do everything to prevent this. You decided to become a little misinformed detective. So you go to the courthouse and dig up public information on my background. Wow, how desperate are you? You get a little dirt on me and call up Jim to tell him how I am a rotten seed, but, he doesn’t want to hear it. So your next step, you decided to call up Jim’s sisters and mother and have a meeting. So, Jim’s mom is the only one that was there, because you conveniently had the "meeting" at her house. Oh, and his sisters didn’t come because they could care less. You cheated on and then divorced their brother, why are you still around? So, you spring all this bad information you gathered on me to his mom, and whined about how you were not going to be able to collect child support from Jim because he is going to assume all of my debt. Well, "miss detective", while my past, and present, are absolutely none of your fucking business, your attention should have been drawn to the fact that although my name was listed there for collection accounts, all accounts were paid 5 years before I ever met Jim. Just grabbing at straws. Funny thing is, no one cared what you had to say!! Imagine that!
When I moved in, your BS continued, and at that point it did become my business. All the times you poked your nose into our personal business, I continued to keep my mouth shut for many reasons. One, your kind thrives on the fact that you are actually getting to someone. I refused to give you any power. Two, I can only imagine what you had said to your boys about me, and I did my best to prove that I was not anything like what you were telling them. So, if I keep my mouth shut, then you look like the idiot, not me. And believe me, they saw it. They talked about it, and told us their feelings.
As for your meddling, once again, you initiated the divorce, and signed those papers on December 10, 2000. Oh, and you are now remarried right? Wasn’t that some type of wedding ceremony that the boys had pictures posted of? So, here’s a tip: stop trying to play wife to your EX husband, and trying playing wife to your NEW husband. Maybe you can keep him happy and keep #2 around!
Stop worrying yourself with our financial affairs, our personal affairs and trying to control everything we do. I mean, do you remember when I had a doctor bill that was in dispute with my insurance company that you found out about, you called Jim to tell him that I don’t pay bills and that he should check all of our accounts cause you "got word" that we are behind on everything. WTF is that?? Nothing but trying to make Jim and I fight.
Then, you got a little piece of information from one of the boys about another non-detrimental matter, and immediately called Jim to rat me out and make it life and marriage ending. You text Jim telling him that he needs to be "loyal" to you as you have been with him. Loyal, really? Didn’t you cheat? Didn’t you lie? Didn’t you destroy your own marriage and family? Wow. I need to re-read the definition of loyal. You expect him to be loyal to his EX wife and not to his CURRENT wife? Have you thought about seeking therapy at all? We haven’t gotten sued, we haven’t let the house foreclose, we still have all our vehicles, we still have the same group of couples that we have had for 8 years, I still have my friends for the past 20 years (speaking of, where are your friends?) So, we are good, stop worrying!
Oh, I know! Maybe you should concentrate on your slum-lord husband and all the suits he has going against him from the State. You know, where they hold his rent payments in renters court because his housing is falling down around the tenants? Or how about the tax evasion charges that he has? Or maybe even the rental homes he has not paid the mortgages on that are in active foreclosure status on innocent tenants? Seems you clearly have some issues that you need to take care of instead of worrying about ours so much.
So, I want to say how enjoyable it has been these past 8 years watching you pull your tricks from your hat, only to have the crowd boo you. You see, Jim and I, as you know, will be together 9 years this January, and married 3 years ummm, TODAY, and are happier then ever! And to date, your antics of trying to make us miserable, fight, split up, kids dislike me, etc., has not worked. So, thank you for all the many years of entertainment. It is just so unfortunate that you wasted so much time in your life not concentrating on your own issues, your own happiness and your own man. I hope it isn’t too late for you.
Finally, I am most grateful for your recent text to Jim telling him about the so called advertisement in the paper. Knowing it is our anniversary, and trying once again to make us argue, fight, etc. You see, I got a copy of the so-called paper on the date that you text him. And there was NO ad in there. So, I called and low and behold the ad that you were texting him about was in the paper ran on August 19th! You even said in your text that the ad was over on September 4th, so why wait until September 28th to tell him? That is a little late, and a little disproving of your claim. Are you expecting us to be as stupid as you didn’t know you were reading a paper from a month ago? Or, just holding out until over a month later when you knew we would be celebrating our anniversary to try to ruin things? Too convenient for me!
Then you proceed to text him and tell him that "it isn’t over of fixed but I wont try to contact you anymore." You expect us to believe that? We have heard that before, and then there you come again rehashing something old, congering up something new.
Well, my dear psychopath, you have divorced Jim, remarried, collected child support every week without delay, and now the kids are now grown. I no longer need to keep my mouth shut for the sake of the boys and keeping the peace. You have NO say in our lives, you have NO control over Jim or us any longer and you need to move on. Thank you for the years of entertainment you have provided us. Thank you for assisting in making our relationship stronger then ever with the loyalty and trust that we have built over the years. And in closing, after trying to come up with short and sweet words to say to you that would sum up everything you have done, attempted to do, my feelings towards you, our feelings towards you, our feelings towards you as a mother, and everything else - - the rudest, most hurtful words that are ever spoken by a person to another came to mind................WHATEVER BECKY!
Try to figure out your own personal issues, your own personal happiness, not the happiness you gain from your psychopathy. Take my advice and move on, because now it is becoming harassment. And as you know, I am in the legal field and have the know how to make harassment charges stick. So, move on, you might have a very good fucking chance of finding your own real happiness in the small time we all have left on this earth. Life’s too short, live some of your own life and stop meddling, worrying and being jealous over mine and Jim’s!
With all my sympathy to your NEW husband,
The Good Wife
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